Here you will find information and supporting links to help you through the journey for better sleep.
You will be able to visit this site whenever you need as we work together, and you will be able to revisit any task, recordings and information up to 8 weeks after the end of our program on 11th November 2022.
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You have already made great progress with Alfie's sleep since you first contacted me.
As you know, I work differently to other sleep consultants. My approach is very gentle and respectful of children's development. I also hold parent's mental health very close and for many parents, my gentle approach is what enables them to improve their child's sleep in a way that feels right for them.
Over the next 6 weeks I will guide and support you to work towards your goals. We are also going to work out what is realistic, and age/developmentally appropriate for Alfie and I find that it helps to tackle sleep in small steps, so that it doesn’t become overwhelming.
You told me that you would like :
For Alfie to, more often than not, sleep in chunks of sleep waking for 1-2 feeds.
Guidance on: how long he can go awake, how to drop the third nap, how long to keep him awake between the last nap and bedtime.
Moving away from rocking to sleep and at first to rock briefly and then stay asleep
It is likely that in order to achieve these goals, we will need to work on:
Distribution of naps and working towards dropping the 3rd nap
Timings of bedtime
Actively moving on from rocking to sleep to a different sleep support tool
Probable reasons for your current sleep situation
Some of the common reasons for sleep problems include discomfort, health problems, feeding issues, allergies, faulty sleep hygiene, too much or too little sleep in the day, emotional needs and wanting to connect. There are of course other reasons, such as habits, problems with limit setting, and unrealistic expectations.
Having had a look at your sleep diary and spending time talking to you about Alfie and your situation, my guess is that your current issues are multifactorial but may include:
Total amount of sleep and how/when this is achieved
Normal (but hard) child behaviour
Alfie's individual sleep needs
The reality is that there is always something that could be improved with sleep.
You’re doing an amazing job of parenting respectfully and responsively, and your sleep situation is not only normal, but common. You have not done anything wrong, and Alfie is not broken. However, you’re describing a situation that has become unsustainable, and so we can work to address and optimize these areas to hopefully improve Alfie’s sleep.
I look forward to working with you closely over the next few weeks, and moving you and Alfie on in your sleep story, without using techniques that might affect attachment, trust and connection. Thank you for choosing to work gently – you will never regret it!
Here is your first task. You can print it by clicking on each picture.